| As an avid online dater myself and a dating coach, I | | | | Resist the urge to show your enthusiasm for |
| am always on the lookout for ways that I can | | | | someone by writing a lengthy initial email that gives |
| improve my initial email communications with other | | | | out too much information about you or goes on |
| online daters. There is an art to writing an initial email | | | | forever. Instead keep your online dating email fairly |
| to a total stranger online and getting them to open it. | | | | short and concise. Somewhere in the neighborhood |
| In addition, it has always been very interesting to me | | | | of three-to-eight sentences should be enough for |
| to see what strategies or efforts work or do not | | | | you to communicate effectively. |
| work on me when I receive an email. | | | | Avoid giving too much info about yourself, discussing |
| Today I would like to share the most common | | | | deal-breakers, and as mentioned before writing a long |
| mistakes people make when sending an initial email on | | | | introductory email. Giving too much information too |
| an online dating site and how to correct them. | | | | soon can help the reader eliminate you before they |
| So, here we go: | | | | have ever considered you and everyone is pressed |
| #1- Not Using the Email Subject Line to Your | | | | for time, so when in doubt, keep your email on the |
| Advantage | | | | shorter side. |
| One of the easiest ways to get more opens on the | | | | #5- Sending Emails that Exclusively "Brown Nose" |
| online dating emails that you send to someone is to | | | | When you send an email, you will want to avoid |
| strategically use the email subject line. Many people | | | | sending a barrage of empty compliments to the |
| do not do this and either leave it blank or write a | | | | other person such as telling them how hot their body |
| boring "Hi." | | | | is, how good looking they are and a load of other |
| If you are emailing someone who gets quite a few | | | | generic compliments. If you want to compliment |
| emails, you will need to entice them to open yours. | | | | them, do so on a specific item found in their profile |
| You can find something that you are planning to talk | | | | and do not overdo it. Be sincere. |
| about in your email and reference it in your subject | | | | #6- Sending Emails Without Checking for Typos |
| line, come up with something cute or clever or create | | | | It only take a few moments to review your email |
| an air of mystery by writing part of a sentence and | | | | before you push send to make sure that you have |
| continuing it in the body of the email to get the | | | | not made any spelling or grammatical errors. Even |
| receiver to open the email to read the rest of it. | | | | though you may be smart as a whip, when you sent |
| #2- Writing a Generic Email That Could Be Sent to | | | | out emails with numerous typos in them, you lose |
| Anyone | | | | credibility. |
| Resist the urge to write generic form letters that | | | | If your online dating email program does not have a |
| you send out to everyone on the online dating site | | | | spellchecker you could still check the spelling of any |
| or emails that are boring like "Hi, how is your day"? | | | | suspect words by using an online dictionary or by |
| Although you may get some responses from these | | | | cutting and pasting your copy into a program that |
| emails, you will do much better to take a few | | | | does have a spellchecker. |
| minutes to read the persons dating ad and to find | | | | #7-Not Giving the Reader a Reason to Answer You |
| something in the copy or the photos to comment on | | | | Back |
| or talk about. This lets the person who receives your | | | | If you write emails that do not give the reader a |
| dating email know that you took the time to read | | | | reason to contact you back, or that do not contain a |
| about them and to create an original email. | | | | call to action (telling them what to do), you will get |
| #3- Sending Your Phone Number Out in Your First | | | | less responses from the readers. |
| Email | | | | Be sure to ask at least one polite question about |
| Sending your phone number out and telling someone | | | | something a picture you have seen or what you |
| to call you without having any previous | | | | have read in the persons profile that they can quickly |
| communication with them is a no-no. It may work for | | | | answer or elaborate on. As you are wrapping up the |
| you on occasion, but from the receivers' point of | | | | email, be sure to tell them that you would enjoying |
| view may be a big turn-off. | | | | hearing back from them in a confident, polite tone. |
| You may come across as desperate or too | | | | By avoiding the simple mistakes listed, you are bound |
| aggressive and it is risky for you to give your phone | | | | to write better initial emails to get more people to |
| number to someone who you have not | | | | open them and if interested in you-respond back. As |
| communicated with at all. They may not be the kind | | | | you have heard before-you never get a second |
| of person that you would want to have your | | | | chance to make a great first impression. If you need |
| number; however you would not know that because | | | | help, consider getting an email consultation with an |
| you did not take the time to communicate with them | | | | online dating coach. |
| via email first to get a feel for them. | | | | Best of luck in your online dating endeavors! |
| #4- Writing a Book Instead of a Concise Email | | | | |